Navigating Divorce in England & Wales: A Practical Guide for People Who Are Self-Representing

Divorce can be one of the most emotionally challenging experiences a person will face, especially when children, finances, and the Family Court system are involved. Whether you are representing yourself or working with a McKenzie Friend, understanding how the process works in England and Wales can reduce stress and help you make confident, informed decisions.

This guide breaks down the essential steps, expectations, and practical tips to support you through your divorce journey

Documents representing the beginning of Family Court proceedings

Understanding the Divorce Process

Since April 2022, England and Wales operates a no-fault divorce system. This means neither person has to prove wrongdoing; one or both parties can simply state that the marriage has irretrievably broken down.

A divorce has three parts, each dealt with separately:

1. The legal divorce – ends the marriage (online portal available)

2. Financial arrangements – can be agreed voluntarily or decided by the court

3. Child arrangements – where children live, go to school, and how they spend time with each parent

You do not automatically resolve finances or childcare just by getting divorced. Separate court orders may be required.

What Is a McKenzie Friend?

A McKenzie Friend supports individuals who are representing themselves in Family Court. They are not solicitors and do not have rights of audience (the right to speak to the judge), but their support can be invaluable.

A McKenzie Friend can:

✓ Help you prepare paperwork and organise evidence

✓ Sit beside you in court for reassurance and note-taking

✓ Offer quiet guidance and help you stay focused

✓ Support communication and planning outside hearings

They cannot:

✘ Give legal advice like a solicitor

✘ Speak on your behalf unless the judge grants permission

✘ Sign court documents for you

Discuss roles clearly beforehand so you understand their limits and can use their support effectively.

Prepare Your Documents Thoroughly

Court proceedings are document-led. Being organised shows the court you are credible, child-focused, and prepared.

Consider preparing:

• A chronology (timeline of key dates)

• Financial disclosure (bank statements, property details, debts)

• Communication records (emails, texts, messages)

• Parenting proposals, if children are involved

Keep originals, copies, and a digital version. Use dividers or folders so you can locate documents instantly during hearings.

Complete Court Forms Accurately

The court requires specific forms to start and manage divorce proceedings. Common forms include:

• Form D8: The divorce application

• Form A: Application to start financial proceedings

• Form C100: If children are involved and you need court orders

  
  

Take your time to fill these forms carefully. Mistakes or missing information can cause delays or complications. If you are unsure, a McKenzie Friend can help you check your forms before submission.

What to Expect in Family Court Hearings

Family court hearings can vary depending on your case, but understanding the typical process will help you feel more prepared.

Communicate Clearly and Respectfully

Family court is not about proving you are right. It is about helping the judge understand the issues calmly and clearly.

Top communication tips:

• Stick to facts, not feelings

• Avoid blaming language

• Pause before responding if emotions rise

• Ask for clarification if you do not understand something

• Keep correspondence child-focused

Manage Your Expectations

Family court rarely delivers instant results. Compromise is normal.

Prepare yourself that:

• There may be multiple hearings

• Orders can change over time as circumstances evolve

• You may not get everything you want immediately

Having realistic expectations reduces frustration and keeps you resilient.

Prioritise Your Wellbeing

Divorce impacts mental health, finances, identity, and routine. Court stress can spill over into everyday life.

Protect yourself by:

• Taking breaks from paperwork

• Speaking with trusted friends or support groups

• Using mindfulness, exercise, or hobbies

• Recognising when to ask for help

A clearer mind leads to better decisions

Using Court Resources and Support Services

The family court system offers resources to help self-represented people. These include:

• Court guides and checklists available online from HM Courts & Tribunals Service

• Family Mediation services to help reach agreements outside court

• Citizens Advice for general legal information and support

• Local advice centres that may offer free or low-cost help

  
  

Using these resources can save time and help you avoid common mistakes.

You do not have to face divorce or Family Court alone. With preparation, the right support, and a calm understanding of the process, you can navigate your case confidently even without a solicitor.

A McKenzie Friend can provide structure, reassurance, and practical assistance throughout your journey, helping you stay focused on what truly matters: your future and your children’s wellbeing.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, Guiding Stars UK offers calm, structured support for those representing themselves in Family Court. Book a free, no-obligation consultation to discuss your situation and explore your options.

Disclaimer

This article provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Guiding Stars UK provides independent McKenzie Friend support in line with the Practice Guidance (Family Courts, 2010).