Understanding McKenzie Friends in Family Law

What Is a McKenzie Friend, and How Can They Support You?

Navigating family law can be a daunting experience. Whether you’re dealing with divorce, child arrangements, or financial disputes, the legal process can feel overwhelming.

At Guiding Stars UK, we understand how difficult it can be to face court proceedings alone. Many parents and carers simply need someone calm, organised, and supportive by their side and that’s where McKenzie Friends can make a real difference.

In this article, we’ll explain what a McKenzie Friend is, their role in family law, and how they can provide the guidance and reassurance you need during challenging times.

What Is a McKenzie Friend?

A McKenzie Friend is a person who provides moral and practical support to someone involved in legal proceedings.

The role originates from the case McKenzie v McKenzie (1970), where the court confirmed that individuals representing themselves have the right to have someone sit with them in court to provide quiet assistance.

McKenzie Friends are not lawyers, but they can still offer valuable help from organising documents and offering encouragement to helping you understand what to expect in court.

The Role of a McKenzie Friend

The role can vary depending on what support you need. Common ways a McKenzie Friend can assist include:

• Emotional support: Offering reassurance and helping you manage the stress of proceedings.

• Practical help: Organising paperwork, reviewing statements, and keeping your documents in order.

• Courtroom support: Sitting beside you in court, taking notes, and quietly offering guidance or reminders.

• Preparation: Helping you plan what you’d like to say or how to present information clearly.

While a McKenzie Friend cannot speak on your behalf or give legal advice, their presence often helps you feel calmer and more in control.

Who Can Be a McKenzie Friend?

Anyone can act as a McKenzie Friend a friend, family member, or a professional who has experience in family court.

If you choose someone professional, it’s best to ensure they understand the court process, maintain confidentiality, and act in your best interests.

Qualities to look for include:

• A good listener

• Organised and reliable

• Calm and emotionally supportive

• Familiar with how family courts work

How to Find the Right McKenzie Friend

You can start by asking people you trust or searching for reputable professional services.

When choosing a McKenzie Friend, consider:

• Experience and understanding of family proceedings

• Professional boundaries and confidentiality

• Good communication and organisation

• Empathy and reassurance they should help you feel supported, not pressured

At Guiding Stars UK, we provide independent McKenzie Friend support that combines structure, empathy, and calm reassurance helping you stay focused on what truly matters: your children’s welfare and your peace of mind.

Benefits of Having a McKenzie Friend

Working with a McKenzie Friend can offer several advantages:

• Cost-effective: Support without the high fees of legal representation.

• Confidence: Having someone beside you helps you stay calm in court.

• Preparation: Guidance with paperwork and understanding next steps.

• Personalised support: Consistent, one-to-one assistance from someone who genuinely cares about your journey.

Understanding Their Limitations

It’s important to remember what a McKenzie Friend cannot do:

• They cannot give legal advice.

• They cannot speak on your behalf in court.

• They are not a substitute for a solicitor or barrister where formal representation is needed.

Their role is to support and empower you, helping you stay organised, confident, and informed throughout the process.

Preparing for Court with a McKenzie Friend

If you decide to work with a McKenzie Friend, a little preparation can make a big difference:

• Gather all relevant documents and notes early.

• Write down questions or key points you want to remember.

• Meet or speak with your McKenzie Friend beforehand to plan how they can best support you.

These small steps can help you feel more confident and prepared on the day.

Final Thoughts

Facing family court alone can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to go through it without support.A McKenzie Friend can help you stay grounded, prepared, and focused providing steady reassurance throughout what can often be a stressful journey.

If you’re representing yourself and would like to understand more about how Guiding Stars UK can support you, please don’t hesitate to get in touch  we’re here to help you find your way forward.

Disclaimer

This article provides general information only and does not constitute legal advice. Guiding Stars UK provides independent McKenzie Friend support in line with the Practice Guidance (Family Courts, 2010).

A person preparing for a family law case with the help of a McKenzie Friend.